If you've just started dating a girl, you probably don't know which category she's in.
So hold off on those epic sweep-her-off-her-feet moves, Tran says.
Putting on an act Think you can sweep a girl off her feet with well-executed lines and a fedora? Even if you manage to pick her up initially, she won't stick around for long if you're putting on an act.
"Pretending to be something you're not is fear operating," Thomas says.
But before you take the plunge with a sexy colleague, you need to step back and recognize what's really fueling the attraction.
"People in offices often bond out of survival," says Thomas.
"In the first few dates, you want to set that masculine, care-taking tone." Picking up the tab for the first three dates doesn't mean going broke—if you can't afford three fancy dinners, take her on a picnic, to a museum, or check out your local public library.3.
Mistaking a good work relationship for attraction Dating a co-worker is never a great idea, but hey—it happens.
"Shut down whatever else you're doing—that includes electronic devices, but also just the noise in your head—and show up," says Thomas.
"There isn't anything more important than the connection you have with your date, and that comes from being truly present." 12.
The key word being 'planning,' not just 'winging it.' "Good dates are planned, and all situations are thought of—nothing is left to chance," says Tran. This allows you to see her in multiple situations and both feed and entertain her, instead of just one." That said, it's better to think of your 'date day' as being on an Italian timetable: Flexibly romantic and never on time.6.
Having too many plans Wait until you're exclusive to start hitting her up as your go-to plus-one, says relationship expert Anita Chlipala.