If you would like to be your teen’s accountability partner, be sure that you are able to listen objectively.
Some things may be tough to hear and you must be able to listen without criticism or judgment.
Several issues arise when our teens begin dating and parents often ask for advice. Do they have a Christian mentor or other adult in their life with whom they will share their dating details?
The following are some questions I have heard most often. While many factors must be taken into consideration, and each situation is different, accountability must be part of your decision. If not, accountability must be put into place before dating begins.
Tommy believed he was entitled to call his girlfriend a “broad.” This was embarrassing to Tommy’s girlfriend and she asked him to stop.
The term always got him a laugh from his peers, so he refused, telling her she was unreasonable.
As Tommy and I discussed his options, he agreed that an apology was in order and agreed to make better choices.
Not only will this initiate interesting discussion, it gives your teen something concrete to remember when making their choices.
Teach your teen how to recognize others with positive qualities as well as how to identify those who may present themselves in one way, but live another.
Another question we must take into consideration is, “Are they dating for the right reasons?
” Many of our teens begin dating for fun and friendship.