Emotional bonds commitment is what leads to broken hearts.
You should be able to share everything with your spouse because the two of you have made one of the greatest relationship commitments available on planet earth.
But on the flipside, the unfulfilled hope of a dating relationship turning into a breakup rather than a marriage can make a heart sick. In Christian Dating You Need Boundaries for Your Words and Promises This list of important dating boundaries for Christians could go on and on.
(Read: Christian Dating, Breakups, and 4 Tips to Help You Get Through It With God) Any breakup is going to hurt because all dating relationships have hope in them, and when hope is deferred the heart grows sick. I just wrote about this in great detail here, “How Far Is Too Far In Christian Dating? I get these two categories from 1 Corinthians 7:1-10. The trickier part will be to define what is an act rooted in sexual desire and what is an act that is simply a sign of affection. But one more that’s just too important not to mention is boundaries for your words and promises.
But you also don’t want to get too emotionally entangled with someone you might not marry, thus you still need to guard your heart since dating is not a commitment for a lifetime like marriage.
How much should you emotionally connect in a Christian dating relationship? In other words, you should connect enough to know whether or not you want to connect more in marriage.
Therefore you should put boundaries around your expectations and hopes in your Christian dating relationship. I’m not saying you need to be hopeless or never have expectations. If you are closed off and don’t have hope, you are dooming the whole experience from the start. Sexual boundaries are what most people think of first because it’s probably the easiest temptation to fall into. Guard what you say if you want to guard your heart. Not everyone feels the same way about these three words as I do.
But I believe these words should not be spoken in a dating relationship.
God designed the two to always be paired together, so knowing how much romance to engage in when the commitment is limited is tricky.
Dating by definition and design is somewhere in between friendship and marriage, therefore Christian guys and girls are always trying to navigate the confusion which is always produced by romance without commitment.