She did not want to abandon him, yet began to see the reality of the situation.Within a month, she had to come to terms with his decision to remain in the cult and drop their relationship.If you choose to pursue marriage and stand firm to HELP him leave the Watchtower, are you prepared for the possibility of him being triggered back into it — especially if children come along?” We provided her with the FAQ link to several articles on the topic at our website and continued to listen to her story.Theirs was a “I love it because it’s mine” love – and not connected to any real emotion or feeling. I had a severe drinking problem by this time, and needed to sober up. I will never forget one conversation I had over coffee with a group of people while we were talking about my view of relationships. ” Since I believed that it wasn’t in a man’s nature to love, I honestly thought I was doing the man a favor by leaving. She said, “If you can’t think of twenty-five things you like about yourself, you really have nothing to offer anyone.” Ouch!
We began to teach this woman about the fear her boyfriend was going through in the prospect of losing his friends and family in addition to dying as an apostate at Armageddon.Growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness (JW) can warp and twist a young person’s mind about many activities, sex in particular. Sitting in the Kingdom Hall as a young child, I would hear talks about sex, but they were, for the most part, warnings about what not to do—what was moral and what was not— but mostly not. So I promised myself that as soon I found out what the heck they were, I would never do them.Masturbation was wrong, mutual masturbation was wrong, and both oral and anal sex were wrong. As I grew up, I came to understand what sex is really all about, according to Watchtower teachings. Well yes, but I also learned that sex was something that married couples do or “due”, as in “paying your dues”.Dating no longer equaled sex the way it had before. I realized that being alone and being lonely weren’t the same thing.I knew more about myself, I knew what I wanted, and I was no longer willing to settle for just anyone that came along. I met the man I am still with today during this blissful time in my life and while still on my honeymoon with myself, so there was no rush.