We must take a look at who we are drawn to in the first place, and why.If you keep attracting (and are attracted to) men who are emotionally unavailable and who treat you poorly, then it really doesn’t matter if your dating prospects are from France, New York, Vancouver or Mars – the shift needs to occur within you first and foremost.If you find they're expecting three hot meals a day and aren't helping out with the household chores, it might be time to educate them - or move on. Austrians are very comfortable with nudity, as you'll notice in the summer months if you stumble into an FKK (nude swimming) zone. So why not get naked, hot, and steamy with a bunch of strangers in an Austrian sauna. If your marriage or relationship needs spicing up you could consider a date at Vienna's famous charge-by-the-hour hotel.It will give you the illusion that you're doing something naughty and forbidden, as if you're having an affair. Take yourself and your love off to a thermal bath and treat yourself to a facial or massage. The Therme Wien has a range of Valentine's day packages on offer. Learn the fine art of how to chatter in German, and you may end up charming the pants off your Austrian date with your adorable foreign accent. Take your sweetheart on a ride on Vienna's famous Giant Ferris Wheel or even better - rent a cabin for a candlelight dinner. Be prepared for the fact that your Austrian date might smoke. Sick of the rampant commercialisation and schmaltz of February 14th?In America, sexual education is not taught until one hits their teens, if they are taught at all. It’s no surprise that American men are left to their own devices, subconsciously learning about sex through porn and the media. The latest law passed in France where excessively skinny models need to prove their health is a testament to that.But when you’re surrounded by American media, filled with Barbie dolls, waif skinny models and Baywatch breasts, the idea of what ‘beauty’ is becomes skewed. European men have a quiet confidence, a demeanor that doesn’t need to scream out loud to prove themselves. The dating culture involves trying out many different options at the same time.
For example, in the Netherlands, comprehensive sexuality education starts at age four. Instead of cruelly dismissing someone by disappearing, they communicate that they are not interested. As the media in Europe is a lot more heavily monitored, Europeans grow up surrounded by media and images of women who are curvy, comfortable in their own skin, and sensual (versus overly sexualized).Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play.I never thought that the cultural background of a dating prospect would make much of a difference when it came to relationships.However, since living in New York, I’ve had the opportunity to meet many different people from various backgrounds and it’s become clear that there are definite cultural norms specific to European men versus American men (especially New Yorkers).