If you feel a bit of jealousy creeping into the pit of your stomach, then you are not emotionally disconnected enough to go through with it.” Reflect on the memories you have with this guy to help decide whether or not you’re willing to risk a future where similar moments will no doubt be altered.
“If this person is truly a good friend, search your feelings: are you secretly hoping this hook up with lead to a relationship?
If so, better to keep your clothes on and ask him on a date then to lock lips and forever lose a friend,” Smith says. You’ve Known Him for 20 Minutes The flipside is also something to consider when deciding whether or not to start a new hook-up.
If you barely know the guy you’re considering get close to in the imminent future, make sure you’re not jumping into something too quickly.
Sydney is a junior double majoring in Media and Cultural Studies and Political Science at Macalester College in St.
“Friends with benefits sounds like a foolproof plan. You are feeling lonely [and] he is game for a go; why not? While friendship can definitely lead to a great relationship, if you’re just looking for something casual, it’s not worth risking what the two of you already have in the name of a fling.
This often leads to a lot of hurt and confusion for you, whoever you hooked up with, and the other person in the picture.
“I hooked up with two guys immediately after I started school freshman year just to get back at a long-distance boyfriend,” says Anna*, who goes to the University of Missouri-Columbia.
“Even if you think you're being nice and doing a lovestruck guy a favor by hooking up with him, it’s really just going to cause further trouble for both of you if you're not into the hook-up,” says Gabbie. He’s Forcing You Into It You wouldn’t stick it out in an abusive relationship, so why put up with an abusive partner in a hook-up or FWB scenario?
Maybe it’s comments from your friend about the way he acts towards you or treats you, concerns expressed by family members about changes in your behavior or attitude, or that little nagging feeling that doesn’t seem to go away when you’re together with him, but if things feel wrong or you have any doubts about starting something more than friendship with a guy, hold back!